There is a plexiglass statue of a salmon in Old Tacoma. It’s almost exactly 2.5 miles from the front door of my apartment, by foot. I run past it almost every day – representing the halfway mark of an easy, 5-ish mile run (though the definition of “easy run” transmogrified quickly once I moved to the PNW as it’s next to impossible for me to run any distance without an elevation gain of more than 500 feet). That fish, which I affectionately call “Mr. Tuna,” or “Mr. T,” is decorated with festive outfits every single major holiday. His current festive attire is a red stocking cap, a green garland wreath, and a string of lights wrapped around his body as an obligatory testament to Christmas™. No matter its décor, every single time I pass that fish I stop my run, find the same small scratch in the plexiglass behind his eye, and kiss him (I do not endorse exchanging bodily fluids with public inanimate objects, either personally or professionally).
Hopefully it goes without saying that this isn’t a romantic expression (though it wouldn’t be the first time my sexuality was questioned – most recently suspected of being asexual!). For as long as I can remember, I’ve spent time while running to show appreciation for…well, I don’t even know what. On my sporadic summer runs in high school, I would pick a leaf off the first tree I ran by and throw it in the air, but not before showing my appreciation – with a kiss of course. I imagine at that time it was appreciation for sleeping in, or time off of school, or for sunny days, or some other discrete, objective entity one can point to, to be thankful for. And for some inexplicable reason, without intention, my awareness would gravitate toward gratitude – well before I was fully conscious of it, and way before the word “gratitude” itself infiltrated the popular lexicon from cringey self-help personalities so as to make me nauseous just writing the fucking word.
For the decade(!) now that I’ve been what one would consider a “runner,” I’ve progressively stumbled on more and more abstract, intangible foci in life to be grateful for, and therefore run for (I had a whole post about it years ago). Now 10 years into this nearly quotidian exercise, with tens of thousands of miles under me, the motivations to run have been distilled down to something more axiomatic. Existential. All the above is still true, but I think now that even if all that were stripped away, motivation would still exist. The famed ultrarunner Scott Jurek more concisely summarizes the phenomenon in his book chronicling his FKT of the Appalachian Trail when he repeats this internal mantra during arduous moments of self-doubt:
“This is who I am. This is what I do.”
This meditative exercise, even if stripped of all of its many, many physical/emotional/spiritual/social benefits, continues because it…just. Does.
This sounds like an unhealthy compulsion, I know. And like many in the running community who have recovered from an eating disorder can attest (yes, I’ve written about that too), being mindful of one’s relationship to exercise and the body is of crucial importance. Yet, it remains integral to who I am, nonetheless. And seemingly unshakable (not that I’m trying to). AND, if nothing else, this morning ritual has provided me a constant in a year full of variability, uncertainty, and blistering change.
My initial impression of this year, before I sat down to reflect, was that it was somewhat…stagnant. Static. A sort of rinse and repeat of the year prior, both personally and in my role as a resident. Maybe its because of just how momentous and bewildering it was to experience everything that I did, that I hadn’t paused to reflect in all the ways that I changed and grew (and hopefully didn’t devolve…). Perhaps more than any other year of my life. Which is a remarkable revelation for someone who has been pithily cataloging their life in residency on social media every single day since becoming a resident. Looking back, its hard to imagine how I would have endured any of this year, the good, the hilarious, the tragic, everything, without the breadth of extraordinary humans I consider my family.
I’m not of the “resolutions” persuasion for new years – which I think by this point has been (rightfully) denounced given its proclivity to promote self-shaming and pathological patterns of thinking. But because I’m introspecting fervently right now (this post has taken me hours as I started with absolutely nothing in mind to write about), there is an intentionality of my life that has been lacking. Persistence and routine – those are muscles I’ve hypertrophied to no end. As is my muscle for tangential wandering, both mentally and physically. But being a doctor (adult in general?) requires a bit more…well, it requires more purpose than just, “it’s what I do.” I am highly cautious of purely cynical behavior – actions taken solely as a means to a personal or political end without any intrinsic desire to complete them for the sake of enjoyment. But aimless, inscrutable actions done purely out of impulse or compulsion aren’t exactly congruent with any of my goals in life, either. I think somewhere between neurotic goal-seeking and aimless, though routinized, hedonism, lies adulthood. If this year I find that balance, I’ll owe much thanks to Mr. Tuna.
Much, MUCH love friends – and happy new year! Enjoy the rest of the 2022 collage 🙂